Charlsie Says: Ok, you can’t force her to be loud, so you are going to need to either get over the fact that she’s quiet (which could just be her style and has nothing to do with you pleasing her) or you need to just man up and say you’d like a little oral feedback — like moaning — while you two are getting busy.
Men tend to be quiet or grunty in bed, and often, they don’t have these huge displays of being loud — which sometimes make women feel uncomfortable. If you are quiet, try being a little more vocal and see how she responds.
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Charlsie Says: Ugh, these situations are some of the worst. Believe her when she says that she’s not interested — until she gives you a reason not to. If she’s flirting back or not shutting down advances from your buddy, then there could be a problem. But if she does act genuinely not interested, trust her (and me) — she wants you, not him.
If you say something to your friend, he will probably tell you you’re just crazy and being overprotective of her. So, if you are man enough and willing to tell him to back off — do it. Just say something like “I don’t mind you hanging out with (your girlfriend) and me, but I am not comfortable with you (insert what he’s doing here, i.e: touching her, flirting, being overly friendly).” If he’s your BFF, he’ll probably apologize and play it cool.
If he thinks that he has some chance in hell of getting with this girl, he may keep it up. However, keep this in mind — they only hooked up. You’re in a relationship. Major difference. Stand your ground, but don’t be too crazy about it either.
Photo by Marin, Photoalto Agency, RF CollectionsCharlsie Says: If you’re good at multitasking, try fingering her while you’re getting busy with your tongue. If you prefer to keep your hands out of the action, hold her legs or hips if she’s moving around too much. Touch her boobs. Hold her hand, if you’re adorable like that and she’s not gripping the sheets. It doesn’t really matter where you put them, just no surprises — if you know what I mean (like the back door).
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